EBSCO search - subject: Marriage and commitment
Properties of Marriage
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Tuesday, October 30, 2007
Step 6 - So What?
Marriage must be founded on a strong commitment between the two people involved in order to strongly stand against the storms of this world, including the threat of divorce and communication ineffectiveness.
Dialogue
Why is commitment important in marriage?
Marriage is commitment. When you get up in front of a room full of people and declare that you will love someone until death, that is a commitment. If you didn't mean it, you should say it. If you are not committed to your spouse, you can't expect your spouse to be committed to you. Then you will never fully trust each other. I don't think it is wise to live your life with someone who you do not trust.
How is commitment established in a marriage?
I already mentioned that trust was important. Trust in marriage is a major factor involved in commitment. When you trust someone, you are more open and honest with them. My research uncovered the importance of being open and honest in ones marriage. Effective communication in marriage is important so that you can be open and honest and understand each other better. There were several counseling sites that I encountered that stressed this issue.
How do you allay fears that a marriage may end in divorce?
It all seems to come back to commitment. If the two are committed to each other "'til death do us part," then the fear of divorce should not even be an issue. If two people are not necessarily committed or have not thought about it, the threat is there. However, it all depends on how strong the marriage is as it faces the tests of time. Strong marriages involve strong commitments which should not be bothered by fears of divorce since they have no grounds to be.
Marriage is commitment. When you get up in front of a room full of people and declare that you will love someone until death, that is a commitment. If you didn't mean it, you should say it. If you are not committed to your spouse, you can't expect your spouse to be committed to you. Then you will never fully trust each other. I don't think it is wise to live your life with someone who you do not trust.
How is commitment established in a marriage?
I already mentioned that trust was important. Trust in marriage is a major factor involved in commitment. When you trust someone, you are more open and honest with them. My research uncovered the importance of being open and honest in ones marriage. Effective communication in marriage is important so that you can be open and honest and understand each other better. There were several counseling sites that I encountered that stressed this issue.
How do you allay fears that a marriage may end in divorce?
It all seems to come back to commitment. If the two are committed to each other "'til death do us part," then the fear of divorce should not even be an issue. If two people are not necessarily committed or have not thought about it, the threat is there. However, it all depends on how strong the marriage is as it faces the tests of time. Strong marriages involve strong commitments which should not be bothered by fears of divorce since they have no grounds to be.
Moments, Stories, People, & Scenes
Watching my parents' relationship flourish over the years and grow stronger each passing day was a living example to me of what commitment in marriage should look like. Even though there were times when I was younger that I remember my parents having a particularly difficult disagreement, they still were able to work things out after having a "time out" to think rationally, recollect their thoughts, and restate what they were trying to communicate in a better way. While I was researching, I came across a good story about a gentleman who was talking to a young couple at an ATM. The gentleman asked the girl why she was making a transaction. She explained that she had to pay for half of their dinner. The gentleman then went on to say that it shouldn't be like that. It made me think about how our society has such an individualistic view of life that it is almost frowned upon for a husband and wife to be one and to share almost everything. Why do people marry if there is even the possibility that "it won't work out"? Can they truly commit themselves to someone who may not be in it for the long term? There seems to not be as much endurance as there should be. If my parents had not been committed to one another, their marriage could have ended before I was born. If couples look at arguments as my parents, then they would have to find a way to "work things out." There was only one good reason for divorce according to my research and that was abuse.
Step 3 - Eight Minute Fastwrite
What first made me think about researching marriage was when I heard that there was a German politician who wanted to make marriages have expiration dates. That made me think about how differently people view marriage. For some it is about the money, for some the love, and for others the relationship. It seemed absurd to me that someone would even think about making marriages expire. So, I decided to research marriage. Marriage is a broad topic, so I narrowed it down to what I thought was my real interest. I wanted to know about marriage commitment. Today, divorce is so common, that it would seem that people do not really care about the commitment that marriage should be or used to be because they are so easy to break that. As I researched, I was surprised to find that there were a lot of people who shared and reinforced my view. They talked about the lack of commitment and also about the importance of effective communication.
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
Paraphrase Activity
Wallerstein, Judith and Sandra Blakeslee. "Chapter 1: Happy Marriages, Do They Exist?" The Good Marriage. © 1995 by Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee. Reprinted by permission of Ticknor & Fields/Houghton Mifflin Co. 16 & 18 Oct. 2007 <http://www.hachettebookgroupusa.com/books/32/0446672483/chapter_excerpt10952.html>
Sections from Text
"In the past twenty years, marriage in America has undergone a profound, irrevocable transformation, driven by changes in women's roles and the heightened expectations of both men and women. Without realizing it, we have crossed a marital Rubicon. For the first time in our history, the decision to stay married is purely voluntary. Anyone can choose to leave at any time—and everyone knows it, including the children. There used to be only two legal routes out of marriage —adultery and abandonment. Today one partner simply has to say,
for whatever reason, I want out." Divorce is as simple as a trip to the nearest courthouse.
"Each year two million adults and a million children in this country are newly affected by divorce. One in two American marriages ends in divorce, and one in three children can expect to experience their parents' divorce. This situation has powerful ripple effects that touch us all. The sense that relationships are unstable affects the family next door, the people down the block, the other children in the classroom. Feelings of intense anxiety about marriage permeate the consciousness of all young men and women on the threshold of adulthood. At every wedding the guests wonder, privately, will this marriage last? The bride and groom themselves may question why they should marry, since it's likely to break up.
"To understand how our social fabric has been transformed, think of marriage as an institution acted upon by centripetal forces pulling inward and centrifugal forces pulling outward. In times past the centripetal forces—law, tradition, religion, parental influence—exceeded those that could pull a marriage apart, such as infidelity, abuse, financial disaster, failed expectations, or the lure of the frontier. Nowadays the balance has changed. The weakened centripetal forces no longer exceed those that tug marriages apart."
Summary
The realities of divorce are very real. It is almost impossible to not know someone who has a direct connection to the divorce of their parents or has been divorced themselves. It is very sad that so many marriages are ended today over issues or problems that couples have dealt with and overcome for years. Divorce is just so easy. Not only do children fear the divorce of their parents, but young men and women fear that they, themselves, will one day experience the pain of a divorce. The strong ties that influenced couples to remain married are not as strong as they once were. Marriage difficulties have a stronger influence to pull couples apart than the strong ties which unite them.
Direct Quotes
"Each year two million adults and a million children in this country are newly affected by divorce. One in two American marriages ends in divorce, and one in three children can expect to experience their parents' divorce. "
This is an important statistic for my paper. I like the way that it is stated, it is very concise and effective.
"For the first time in our history, the decision to stay married is purely voluntary. Anyone can choose to leave at any time. ... There used to be only two legal routes out of marriage —adultery and abandonment. Today one partner simply has to say, for whatever reason, 'I want out.' Divorce is as simple as a trip to the nearest courthouse."
This is, again, so concise and straightforward. It is such such an abrupt, simple example of how simple it really is nowadays.
Paraphrase
"In times past the centripetal forces—law, tradition, religion, parental influence—exceeded those that could pull a marriage apart, such as infidelity, abuse, financial disaster, failed expectations, or the lure of the frontier. Nowadays the balance has changed. The weakened centripetal forces no longer exceed those that tug marriages apart."
A long time ago, marriage used to be held together by tradition, religion, parental influence, and the law. Today, marriages are easily dissolved by "infidelity, abuse, financial [problems], failed expectations," or the desire to explore on their own. They are not based on the ideals held so strongly by our ancestors.
"The sense that relationships are unstable affects the family next door, the people down the block, the other children in the classroom. Feelings of intense anxiety about marriage permeate the consciousness of all young men and women on the threshold of adulthood. At every wedding the guests wonder, privately, will this marriage last? The bride and groom themselves may question why they should marry, since it's likely to break up."
Divorce has long reaching affects, not only on those immediately involved, but also those indirectly involved. Everyone has been or is affected by divorce to some degree. It is a fear with which young men and women struggle, especially those who are contemplating marriage.
Sections from Text
"In the past twenty years, marriage in America has undergone a profound, irrevocable transformation, driven by changes in women's roles and the heightened expectations of both men and women. Without realizing it, we have crossed a marital Rubicon. For the first time in our history, the decision to stay married is purely voluntary. Anyone can choose to leave at any time—and everyone knows it, including the children. There used to be only two legal routes out of marriage —adultery and abandonment. Today one partner simply has to say,
for whatever reason, I want out." Divorce is as simple as a trip to the nearest courthouse.
"Each year two million adults and a million children in this country are newly affected by divorce. One in two American marriages ends in divorce, and one in three children can expect to experience their parents' divorce. This situation has powerful ripple effects that touch us all. The sense that relationships are unstable affects the family next door, the people down the block, the other children in the classroom. Feelings of intense anxiety about marriage permeate the consciousness of all young men and women on the threshold of adulthood. At every wedding the guests wonder, privately, will this marriage last? The bride and groom themselves may question why they should marry, since it's likely to break up.
"To understand how our social fabric has been transformed, think of marriage as an institution acted upon by centripetal forces pulling inward and centrifugal forces pulling outward. In times past the centripetal forces—law, tradition, religion, parental influence—exceeded those that could pull a marriage apart, such as infidelity, abuse, financial disaster, failed expectations, or the lure of the frontier. Nowadays the balance has changed. The weakened centripetal forces no longer exceed those that tug marriages apart."
Summary
The realities of divorce are very real. It is almost impossible to not know someone who has a direct connection to the divorce of their parents or has been divorced themselves. It is very sad that so many marriages are ended today over issues or problems that couples have dealt with and overcome for years. Divorce is just so easy. Not only do children fear the divorce of their parents, but young men and women fear that they, themselves, will one day experience the pain of a divorce. The strong ties that influenced couples to remain married are not as strong as they once were. Marriage difficulties have a stronger influence to pull couples apart than the strong ties which unite them.
Direct Quotes
"Each year two million adults and a million children in this country are newly affected by divorce. One in two American marriages ends in divorce, and one in three children can expect to experience their parents' divorce. "
This is an important statistic for my paper. I like the way that it is stated, it is very concise and effective.
"For the first time in our history, the decision to stay married is purely voluntary. Anyone can choose to leave at any time. ... There used to be only two legal routes out of marriage —adultery and abandonment. Today one partner simply has to say, for whatever reason, 'I want out.' Divorce is as simple as a trip to the nearest courthouse."
This is, again, so concise and straightforward. It is such such an abrupt, simple example of how simple it really is nowadays.
Paraphrase
"In times past the centripetal forces—law, tradition, religion, parental influence—exceeded those that could pull a marriage apart, such as infidelity, abuse, financial disaster, failed expectations, or the lure of the frontier. Nowadays the balance has changed. The weakened centripetal forces no longer exceed those that tug marriages apart."
A long time ago, marriage used to be held together by tradition, religion, parental influence, and the law. Today, marriages are easily dissolved by "infidelity, abuse, financial [problems], failed expectations," or the desire to explore on their own. They are not based on the ideals held so strongly by our ancestors.
"The sense that relationships are unstable affects the family next door, the people down the block, the other children in the classroom. Feelings of intense anxiety about marriage permeate the consciousness of all young men and women on the threshold of adulthood. At every wedding the guests wonder, privately, will this marriage last? The bride and groom themselves may question why they should marry, since it's likely to break up."
Divorce has long reaching affects, not only on those immediately involved, but also those indirectly involved. Everyone has been or is affected by divorce to some degree. It is a fear with which young men and women struggle, especially those who are contemplating marriage.
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Narrative Notetaking
Focusing Question: What is involved in a strong marriage?
Source: Wallerstein, Judith and Sandra Blakeslee. "Chapter 1: Happy Marriages, Do They Exist?" The Good Marriage. © 1995 by Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee. Reprinted by permission of Ticknor & Fields/Houghton Mifflin Co. 16 & 18 Oct. 2007 <http://www.hachettebookgroupusa.com/books/32/0446672483/chapter_excerpt10952.html>
Layer 1: Story the Source
This first chapter in a book is about the writer's findings about divorce and also marriage principles. It talks about studies and observations which were conducted about marriages. There is intersting information about how second marriages compare to first marriages. "Happiness" in marriage is also an issue discussed about what it means to have a happy marriage and to be happy in ones marriage. She conducted several interviews with couples to find out more information on a personal level and she includes some of these conversations in this chapter. She made the observation that marriages have changed over the years and talks about those changes. Explaining that this book is not a "how-to" book, she tells her readers that it is about her observations from which she thinks and hopes people can learn and understand for fully. She has several interesting historical notes about the changes in marriage over the years. Her purpose is stated in the last paragraph. She wants to help people see how it is possible to develop "good marriages in a culture of divorce."
Layer 2: Rapid Summary
Almost all of the information contained in this chapter sounds important for my paper. The points about how marriages have become so easily disolved seems to be a theme and the reason for her research. She talks a lot about the coomplexity of relationships involved in a marriage and all the emotions and factors that contribute to its success or its downfall.
Layer 3: Narrative of Thought
When I was reading this chapter, I realised that we share a lot of the same veiws and she brought up points that support my views of which I had not thought. I already knew that "happy marriages are not carefree. There are good times and bad times, and certainly partners may face serious crises together or separately." It has been good to see that reiterated over and over again throughout my research. It is an important point and something I think is taken forgrated. Just because one is married does not mean life will be easier. If it did, the divorce rate would not be so high. "One very important goal of the study was to find out what people in these marriages meant by 'happy.'" This is something that I have been trying to answer myself. Her notes about this are insightful and I am sure I will be using them in my paper. "In the past twenty years, marriage in America has undergone a profound, irrevocable transformation, driven by changes in women's roles and the heightened expectations of both men and women. Without realizing it, we have crossed a marital Rubicon. For the first time in our history, the decision to stay married is purely voluntary. Anyone can choose to leave at any time... Divorce is as simple as a trip to the nearest courthouse." This bothers me, even though I know it to be true. This clearly addresses the fact that there is such a lack of commitment to marriages today. How did we slip so low? When will people realize how damaging this issue is not only to themselves, but all of the family members and friends involved?
Source: Wallerstein, Judith and Sandra Blakeslee. "Chapter 1: Happy Marriages, Do They Exist?" The Good Marriage. © 1995 by Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee. Reprinted by permission of Ticknor & Fields/Houghton Mifflin Co. 16 & 18 Oct. 2007 <http://www.hachettebookgroupusa.com/books/32/0446672483/chapter_excerpt10952.html>
Layer 1: Story the Source
This first chapter in a book is about the writer's findings about divorce and also marriage principles. It talks about studies and observations which were conducted about marriages. There is intersting information about how second marriages compare to first marriages. "Happiness" in marriage is also an issue discussed about what it means to have a happy marriage and to be happy in ones marriage. She conducted several interviews with couples to find out more information on a personal level and she includes some of these conversations in this chapter. She made the observation that marriages have changed over the years and talks about those changes. Explaining that this book is not a "how-to" book, she tells her readers that it is about her observations from which she thinks and hopes people can learn and understand for fully. She has several interesting historical notes about the changes in marriage over the years. Her purpose is stated in the last paragraph. She wants to help people see how it is possible to develop "good marriages in a culture of divorce."
Layer 2: Rapid Summary
Almost all of the information contained in this chapter sounds important for my paper. The points about how marriages have become so easily disolved seems to be a theme and the reason for her research. She talks a lot about the coomplexity of relationships involved in a marriage and all the emotions and factors that contribute to its success or its downfall.
Layer 3: Narrative of Thought
When I was reading this chapter, I realised that we share a lot of the same veiws and she brought up points that support my views of which I had not thought. I already knew that "happy marriages are not carefree. There are good times and bad times, and certainly partners may face serious crises together or separately." It has been good to see that reiterated over and over again throughout my research. It is an important point and something I think is taken forgrated. Just because one is married does not mean life will be easier. If it did, the divorce rate would not be so high. "One very important goal of the study was to find out what people in these marriages meant by 'happy.'" This is something that I have been trying to answer myself. Her notes about this are insightful and I am sure I will be using them in my paper. "In the past twenty years, marriage in America has undergone a profound, irrevocable transformation, driven by changes in women's roles and the heightened expectations of both men and women. Without realizing it, we have crossed a marital Rubicon. For the first time in our history, the decision to stay married is purely voluntary. Anyone can choose to leave at any time... Divorce is as simple as a trip to the nearest courthouse." This bothers me, even though I know it to be true. This clearly addresses the fact that there is such a lack of commitment to marriages today. How did we slip so low? When will people realize how damaging this issue is not only to themselves, but all of the family members and friends involved?
source
Wilson, James Q. "Marriage & Commitment." Marriage & Families. pg 2-11.
<http://marriageandfamilies.byu.edu/issues/2005/Fall/20055.MarriageAndCommitment.pdf>
<http://marriageandfamilies.byu.edu/issues/2005/Fall/20055.MarriageAndCommitment.pdf>
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
source
Wallerstein, Judith and Sandra Blakeslee. "Chapter 1: Happy Marriages, Do They Exist?" The Good Marriage. © 1995 by Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee. Reprinted by permission of Ticknor & Fields/Houghton Mifflin Co. 16 Oct. 2007 <http://www.hachettebookgroupusa.com/books/32/0446672483/chapter_excerpt10952.html>
Exercise 3.4
Marshack, Kathy J. based on book by Judith Wallerstein. "Marriage Counseling: Maintaining a Strong Marriage." The Good Marriage. copyright 2000-2007. 16 Oct. 2007. <http://www.kmarshack.com/therapy/marital/tipmarriage.html>
Step 1
I have been influenced by observing the marriages of other people. I have seen both postiive and negative elements. I think I know what consitutes a strong marriage. Good communication is key. I cannot quite identify with my subject because I am not yet married. However, I am betrothed which has the same commitment that marriage has; it ends in death or marriage. The elements of a strong marriage are hard for me to describe. You have to be committed to each other and share most (if not all) of the same values and morals. I have seen marriages get shaky because of spiritual issues and lack of good communication. I have heard of marriages that ended because of those same issues. I want to have a stronger marriage with more open communication than those I have observed.
Step 2
2. This article contains nine elements that are important for maintaining a strong, healthy marriage. Some of them involve communication - with family members and each other. It is important to have a safe haven and maintain a level of privacy for the couple and the family they are building together. They need to share friends, interests, and experiences so they do not get bored with or loose interest in each other.
3. "nine critical psychological tasks that take place in a healthy marriage... separate emotionally from the family of one’s childhood in order to invest fully in the marriage,... build togetherness,... embrace the daunting role of parenthood ... while the couple works to protect their privacy,... confront and master the inevitable crises of life, maintaining the strength of the bond in the face of adversity, ... create a safe haven for the expression of differences, ... use laughter and humor to keep things in perspective, and to avoid boredom by sharing fun, interests and friends, ... provide nurturance and comfort to each other, satisfying each partner’s needs for dependency and offering continuing encouragement and support, ... keep alive the early romantic, idealized images of falling in love while facing the sober realities of the changes wrought by time." (passage was short and in a list format)
4.
Step 1
I have been influenced by observing the marriages of other people. I have seen both postiive and negative elements. I think I know what consitutes a strong marriage. Good communication is key. I cannot quite identify with my subject because I am not yet married. However, I am betrothed which has the same commitment that marriage has; it ends in death or marriage. The elements of a strong marriage are hard for me to describe. You have to be committed to each other and share most (if not all) of the same values and morals. I have seen marriages get shaky because of spiritual issues and lack of good communication. I have heard of marriages that ended because of those same issues. I want to have a stronger marriage with more open communication than those I have observed.
Step 2
2. This article contains nine elements that are important for maintaining a strong, healthy marriage. Some of them involve communication - with family members and each other. It is important to have a safe haven and maintain a level of privacy for the couple and the family they are building together. They need to share friends, interests, and experiences so they do not get bored with or loose interest in each other.
3. "nine critical psychological tasks that take place in a healthy marriage... separate emotionally from the family of one’s childhood in order to invest fully in the marriage,... build togetherness,... embrace the daunting role of parenthood ... while the couple works to protect their privacy,... confront and master the inevitable crises of life, maintaining the strength of the bond in the face of adversity, ... create a safe haven for the expression of differences, ... use laughter and humor to keep things in perspective, and to avoid boredom by sharing fun, interests and friends, ... provide nurturance and comfort to each other, satisfying each partner’s needs for dependency and offering continuing encouragement and support, ... keep alive the early romantic, idealized images of falling in love while facing the sober realities of the changes wrought by time." (passage was short and in a list format)
4.
Exercise 3.1 - Step 3
The counselors are helpful for the students when they do not know what to do or where to go for help. Without them, some students will get lost in the swamp of information and may never be able to understand how to cope with and understand all of it.
Student-activities are great for allowing students to get together and do something fun. Those who participate make new friends with whom they can relate. College is a place of discovery and one of the things that need to be discovered are new friendships. A lot of students will not know many (if any) people who are going to school with them. This can make the college experience very lonely and unbearable. In my communications class, we have learned that human contact and connection is important for humans to be able to survive.
The things you mentioned getting rid of are important for helping college students to make it through college and not dread everyday of it. Relationships are important and the small activities provide fun, non-threatening ways to get to know people in ones school.
Student-activities are great for allowing students to get together and do something fun. Those who participate make new friends with whom they can relate. College is a place of discovery and one of the things that need to be discovered are new friendships. A lot of students will not know many (if any) people who are going to school with them. This can make the college experience very lonely and unbearable. In my communications class, we have learned that human contact and connection is important for humans to be able to survive.
The things you mentioned getting rid of are important for helping college students to make it through college and not dread everyday of it. Relationships are important and the small activities provide fun, non-threatening ways to get to know people in ones school.
Exercise 3.1 - Step 2
Some students would probably enjoy it, but personally, I would not. For me, college is not a playground, it is a testing ground. It prepares us to go work in the "real world." If you make it all fun and games, college student will get the idea that the world is like that and will end up falling on their faces when they try to go out there. If the motivation of the college is to keep students in college so they do not want to leave, then that would be a great idea. However, that is not the role of college. Why do you think that this is a good idea? Do you want the college to just make more money off of the students who are attending? What does the college hope to get out of this?
Exercise 3.1 - Step 1
I see a lot of students who do act as you have described. They allow the weather to affect their moods and they socialize with friends at lunch even though they should be studying. But college students are all very different. There are other students I know who are so absorbed in getting good grades that they do not even talk to other people, but just go from class to their books. They are passionately trying to learn all they can so that they can succeed in life. Younger college students who are still living at home do not always appreciate the fact that their parents are paying a lot for them to go to school so they can get a good degree and eventually a good job to live on their own. These students are the ones who are not passionate. I am very passionate about learning. I have always had an inquisitive mind and enjoyed discovering new information so I can use it. I like discovering new information and trying to apply it to my life. I know other students like me too, who are passionate about their studies and are looking forward to their future. College students are available in several different brands. Do you agree?
Tuesday, October 9, 2007
Exercise 2.2 - Internet searches
Topic: Marriage Commitment (ie Commitment in Marriage)
Focusing Question: What makes a strong marriage? How verbal communication is important in building lasting, committed marriages?
Focusing Question: What makes a strong marriage? How verbal communication is important in building lasting, committed marriages?
- Hector, Peter. Love is No Guarantee! What you Need to Know before You fall in Love. Crunchbird Publishing, 10 Jan. 2003. Excerpted on eNotAlone. 9 Oct. 2007 <http://www.enotalone.com/article/2649.html> Several chapters all are a good source for facts about how many marriages last in view of how many do not. It included information about the physical ties and communication ties that are involved in lasting marriages. (Christian source, this is really a book, but there are sections available on the Internet.)
- Perry, Peary. "50-50 VS 110%" 28 April 2004. Texas Escapes.com. 9 Oct. 2007 This article has a good example of how relationships have changed, commitment is not as important to people. "We hear the words... 'for better or for worse' when people stand up to get married. That takes communication. For a marriage to survive, both parties must be honest and truthful with one another. ... Relationships have to have a strong sense of communication to weather the storms of life if they are going to survive. You can't have flowers without the rain. The final word is commitment. In the marriage vows the phrase is expressed as 'till death do we part.' That's commitment. That's long term commitment, not just for week, month or a year, but for life. To look someone in the eye and verbally express in front of other witnesses that you will love and honor this person till death do you part takes a lot of willingness to commit to making a marriage work. ... Marriage is not all wine and roses, sometimes its vinegar and weeds, ... we must enter into relationships with one another for the long haul and an eye on the goal, years, and years away, not just for tomorrow."
- Reeves, Patsilu. Keys to Building a Strong Marriage: Commitment. 2006. Mississippi State University Extension Service. 9 Oct. 2007 Good basic descriptions of "Many loving couples go into marriage thinking they will have a wonderful life, and if it does not work out, they can get a divorce. This is not a commitment." (author had Ph.D.)
Thursday, October 4, 2007
Book Research
Marriage -> communication in marriage
Men, women and relationships : making peace with the opposite sex /
by Gray, John, 1951-
Beyond Words Pub., c1990.
Subjects
Communication in marriage.
Interpersonal relations.
Dating (Social customs).
Description: 306 p. ; 26 cm.
ISBN: 0941831507 (pbk.)
Call #: BF 692.2 .G73 1990
Married people : staying together in the age of divorce /
by Klagsbrun, Francine.
Bantam Books, 1986, c1985.
Subjects
Marriage.
Communication in marriage.
Description: xvi, 366 p. ; 18 cm.
Notes: Includes index.
ISBN: 055325684X (pbk.) :
Call #: HQ 734 .K57 1986
You just don't understand : women and men in conversation /
by Tannen, Deborah.
Ballantine, 1991, c1990.
Subjects
Communication in marriage.
Interpersonal communication.
Sex differences (Psychology).
Edition: 1st Ballantine Books ed.
Description: 330 p. ; 21 cm.
ISBN: 0345372050
Call #: HQ 734 .T24 1991
Love is never enough : how couples can overcome misunderstandings, resolve conflicts, and solve relationship problems through cognitive therapy /
by Beck, Aaron T.
Harper & Row, c1988.
Subjects
Marriage -- Psychological aspects.
Communication in marriage.
Interpersonal conflict.
Cognitive therapy.
Edition: 1st ed.
Description: xii, 323 p. ; 25 cm.
Notes: Includes index.
ISBN: 0060159561
Call #: HQ 734 .B47 1988
Women can't hear what men don't say : destroying myths, creating love /
by Farrell, Warren.
Jeremy Tarcher, c1999.
Subjects
Man-woman relationships.
Interpersonal communication.
Communication in marriage.
Description: 372 p. : ill. ; 24 m.
Notes: Includes index.
ISBN: 087477988X
Call #: HQ 801 .F355 1999
Men, women and relationships : making peace with the opposite sex /
by Gray, John, 1951-
Beyond Words Pub., c1990.
Subjects
Communication in marriage.
Interpersonal relations.
Dating (Social customs).
Description: 306 p. ; 26 cm.
ISBN: 0941831507 (pbk.)
Call #: BF 692.2 .G73 1990
Married people : staying together in the age of divorce /
by Klagsbrun, Francine.
Bantam Books, 1986, c1985.
Subjects
Marriage.
Communication in marriage.
Description: xvi, 366 p. ; 18 cm.
Notes: Includes index.
ISBN: 055325684X (pbk.) :
Call #: HQ 734 .K57 1986
You just don't understand : women and men in conversation /
by Tannen, Deborah.
Ballantine, 1991, c1990.
Subjects
Communication in marriage.
Interpersonal communication.
Sex differences (Psychology).
Edition: 1st Ballantine Books ed.
Description: 330 p. ; 21 cm.
ISBN: 0345372050
Call #: HQ 734 .T24 1991
Love is never enough : how couples can overcome misunderstandings, resolve conflicts, and solve relationship problems through cognitive therapy /
by Beck, Aaron T.
Harper & Row, c1988.
Subjects
Marriage -- Psychological aspects.
Communication in marriage.
Interpersonal conflict.
Cognitive therapy.
Edition: 1st ed.
Description: xii, 323 p. ; 25 cm.
Notes: Includes index.
ISBN: 0060159561
Call #: HQ 734 .B47 1988
Women can't hear what men don't say : destroying myths, creating love /
by Farrell, Warren.
Jeremy Tarcher, c1999.
Subjects
Man-woman relationships.
Interpersonal communication.
Communication in marriage.
Description: 372 p. : ill. ; 24 m.
Notes: Includes index.
ISBN: 087477988X
Call #: HQ 801 .F355 1999
Tuesday, October 2, 2007
Research & Google Projects
What did you learn about research by doing the Google Project?
Participating in the Google Project, helped me realize how much of a perfectionist I am and reinforced the fact that you cannot always rely on other people for your research, you have to do some yourself, even if it is just to make sure that they got their facts correct. Sometimes, it is easier to do a job by yourself than in a group of people who all have different methods of research. However, I realized that my method is not the only method. I look over a source and take notes on it, then move on to another one. Some people look at several sources and mix them all together in their mind so that the information comes out in a very original way. Both methods are helpful for different things and I am glad that I was able to learn this method so I can use it along with my own as I write my personal research paper.
Participating in the Google Project, helped me realize how much of a perfectionist I am and reinforced the fact that you cannot always rely on other people for your research, you have to do some yourself, even if it is just to make sure that they got their facts correct. Sometimes, it is easier to do a job by yourself than in a group of people who all have different methods of research. However, I realized that my method is not the only method. I look over a source and take notes on it, then move on to another one. Some people look at several sources and mix them all together in their mind so that the information comes out in a very original way. Both methods are helpful for different things and I am glad that I was able to learn this method so I can use it along with my own as I write my personal research paper.
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